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Below you will find comments received from across the United States.  The names of the Authors will remain Anonymous as promised. Also, it is important that you know, that I will be posting all comments. Some may be offensive and may be something I myself would prefer not to have present on this site. But given first hand experience on Constitutional rights being violated, I can not and will not let that happen here. The only comments or posts that will not be allowed, are those which content is determined to be vulgar or simply not pertinent to the subject and cause at hand.  With that said, I encourage you to comment and post. We need your voice!
 What I have found is that most Americans just don’t believe it can happen to them, and then it does

This needs to change to a fair system!

Im really pleased to see a site like this we need more ppl that want the childsupport rule to change, b/c to many ppl are getting away with this issue in america. Im more than happy to sign my name away on this petition.

Hi Jim,
Sorry it has taken me so long to respond. Yes of course you can use my comments. I am so frustrated with this system. Now there is a company called support kids that is conning custodial parents into believing that they can get them all of teh money owed to them ( they neglect to tell them that they will be taken out of the state’s child support system). Anyway the child support system has been a thorn in my side for years, they’ve taken my tax refunds and after I was laid off I had to deplete my 401K just to live and pay child support. They take thousands at a time and then a couple of months later they will say you are in arrears and demand thousands more to restore a drivers license or keep you out of jail. And why do u get a deduction on your taxes for alimony and children that live with you, but there is no deduction for shild support? Isn’t that a child of yours too?
This was received by Denise; last name will remain anonymous. Please visit her website at

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This interests me very much as it is very true and i also am dealing with and know of many other fathers who’s life is a complete mess because of this ORS greed!::please contact me so that we can think of a plan of action together.::::

Amen, child support is designed to punish the fathers, not support the kids. It is an absolute mess

We need to support the children!

I am a working mother of one and forced to take full care financially for my child. My ex cannot even get a job due to suspended drivers license due to back pay. This is ridiculous.

I don’t feel that it’s fair to the US taxpayers that we pay for kickbacks for these judges. There needs to be reform where this is fair for all and not for others to make a quick buck. Fathers should pay for their responsibility and support their children and righteously so, but not to the benefit of those not even involves. Please reform Child Support and make it fair for the children involved. Gov’t needs to stop this needless corruption.

I am a non-custodial parent, I am over $35,000 in arrears, due to layoffs from jobs, seeking higher education, and I will admit some of my own ignorance and bad decision making, but due to child support, I have had my drivers license suspended, not received a tax return, and I could go on and on. I believe child support is needed, because our children need our financial support, but they need a lot more than a check. That is why child support needs to be reformed.

My story starts 11 years ago. I was a young, stupid 18 year old who got involved with a man who already had 1 child with one on the way. He gave me a sob story that I so ignorantly fell for. Hindsight is always 20/20. I became pregnant almost right away. So we moved in together. I had been brought up to at the very least try to make a relationship with my child’s father. That is what I was going to do. I lived with him for 1 1/2 years. During that time he never once kept a job longer than 2 months, most of the time he wasn’t working at all. He would not pay support for the one child he had a support order for. He was basically a mooching deadbeat. I stayed for 1 1/2 years because I felt stuck. Like I owed it to my son to try with his father. But it just would not work. I could not take it anymore. I figured he isn’t helping me anyway so I’m better off on my own. I waited until my son was 4 to get the child support order. I had hopes that his father would WANT to help me so that we didn’t have to go through the court system. That’s just too much trouble. I never asked him for much. At most I asked him for diapers or formula once a month. No he didn’t want to do that. He finally said “I’m not giving you anything unless a judge says I have to”. Well, guess what. The judge says he has to and he still won’t. He has since had 4 other children. So he has a total of 7 children with 7 different women. He has support orders for 4 of them. One lives with him because he found a woman to marry him. 2 of them he has nothing to do with and wants nothing to do with. My support order has always been $28 per week. He has never been without back support. Well, I take that back. One time he went to jail for being $1600 behind for my son. He couldn’t get out unless he paid that. He was out in less than 24 ho This comment is sponsored by

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I am a father who gladly supports his daughter, but there is a time we need to draw the line. The are to many custodial parents out there who use the child support system as a crutch for their own financail support and not the child (ren). I have been observing to this and it is mainly the mothers. I have noticed mothers who tend to work part time or not work at all due to child support. I have seen them swipe their welfare cards. A man is always to blame, but we tend to forget that it takes 2 have sex and make a baby. I have also noticed with young couples that the babie becomes a weapon against the father. A weapon is right. The federal and state gavernments have catered to women and have allowed them to make the decisions on when the child can see his or her father. Very unconstitutional.

FORCE females to PROVE they are spending child support on the CHILDREN, NOT on other things like drugs or whatever. Also whenever a female has a baby make SURE the father is named. NO more welfare for unnamed children. Go after men who father children, but don’t support them. DON’T have children you can’t afford. No more tax money for females who have children with uncaring. nonpresent fathers.

A man that has been unjustly labeled a Deadbeat Dad! There needs to be change in the child support system. I could tell you my story but it would take pages and pages.

I know I am tired of being treated like a criminal in the court room. I am up to date with my support, but my work is slow and I am down to two weeks a month. I still pay the same.

The child support laws of this country are in desperate need of reform. Too often, as in my case, the father is looked on as only a paycheck while the mother, even if she is in the middle of an adulterous affair is given full custody and a child support payments for her reward. Also a change in circumstances before, during or after the fact which can be proven should be considered before garnishments, interest, confiscation of driver’s licenses, or jail. Too many times fathers are criminalized without so much as a day in court. This is just wrong. I believe in taking care of your children. I don’t believe in making fathers into criminals because they can’t afford the court awarded support and a life of their own. Maybe we should abolish no fault divorce. Things can’t remain as they are. The current economy is going to ruin too many good men who are non custodial parents.

I am concerned about this issue because of the tremendous financial burden it places on the non custodial parent. This burden ultimately has serious consequences for the children. There are circumstances when the non custodial parent isn’t able to pay the court ordered child support due to periods of unemployment/underemployment or serious illness. During these times, they are often unable to take the steps neccessary to request a modification because often they think the situation is temporary, but it too quickly becomes overwhelming. They often aren’t given the benefit of a doubt and are labled as “dead beat dads”. This contributes to hostility and resentment and makes it diffucult for the non custodial parent to want to do the right thing. I realize that there are many intances when the non custodial parent simply does not want to take responsibility, but that is not always the case. The system needs to be reformed!!!

I believe that reform needs to take place because it is unjust that the non-custodial parent is the only responsible one. The NCP is the one that is made to work to support his ex, their children together and the new family. Often times the custodial parent will voluntarily not work which means they are not contributing to the well being of the children. If the CP is not working and is re-married the new spouses income should be taken into account. Being married is apparently their job and that’s how they are providing the support for the children. Please sign this petition so equality can be given.

Equal rights for all, special privileges for none – quote by Thomas Jefferson

I am a father of two children, whom I dearly love (of course) I have enumerous female friends whose partners have fled the home ‘nest’ for whatever reasons, some are men and support their children and spouse, some however are , well, it’s unprintable, I agree sort out the mess of this system so it is fair, and partners who flee are made to pay. And p.s. we are not all criminals!

Something needs to be done to restore fairness and equality for children. The current system is constantly abused, unfair, and unregulated. We need change!!

I dont pay much child support per month, but I cannot even afford what I am supposed to pay right now and it seems like our system just doesnt care about us.

If you would like to show your support for these individuals, Please sign. You may also leave a comment of sentiment. Possibly you could tell a family member, friend, co-worker, or perhaps a neighbor about this Petition and encourage them to Sign. We Need Your Support!

Please take a moment and SIGN for Child Support Reform. If not for yourself; then do it for the Children. PLEASE USE THE COMMENT FORM TO SIGN LOCATED AT THE BOTTOM OF THIS PAGE; Thank You!

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About The Author

My name is James (Jim) DeLelys. I have been involved in the Child Support System for nearly 16 years. Over those years I have acquainted myself with countless individuals who have had to bear the burden of a terribly broken and corrupt sytem. It is through 'listening' that I have come to the enevitable conclusion that Child Support Laws and Government interference can not be tolerated anymore.


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