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Lies, Corruption, Deceit and Totally Disabled?

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It is situations like these, and there are countless, that are frustrating, exhausting and heartbreaking! When Mr. Joel Stanley submitted this situation, I was totally appalled and I didn’t even get past the first few words, “totally and permanently disabled.” As I continued to read, it got far worse. Joel you are always in my prayers. Reform will come as we continue to get people to come forward. Public awareness and opinion will change from the courage you exhibited by sharing with us your horrific situation

Joels’ situation:

I am totally and permanently disabled with several doctor’s statements and I’ve been waiting for SS disability for 18 months. I have an active appeal and am waiting. I have lost my career with 100k a year. My X left taking all our home equity 84K and 52K in cash and 68K in credit in my name without my knowledge or consent. All legal in NC. I have lost my home and the home I had for my 71 year old mother. All that I worked for 50-60 hrs. a week for 34 years is gone, never been out of a job before my spinal injury and first two heart attacks. When my severance pay ended 04/08 I had no income at all. I stopped paying my child support on 05/08. My x has filled suit after suit on me causing me great hardship just to make the trips of 250 mls.

In July the child support enforcement agent lied under oath saying she had no record of my SS disability appeal or any other paperwork, even though I had a fax record when they were sent, a receipt from mailing them, and 4 weeks prior had handed her another copy of them in the courtroom.

She then presented that I had sold a 30 year boat (the last thing I owned) for $4500 and did not use it to pay my child support. She claimed I was out fishing on my boat several times in the last few months(It hasn’t run in almost 2 yrs), always ate out at nice restaurants and spent lots of money on all kinds of things, under oath she swore she had interviewed many witnesses. When I asked Who, She just responded there were lot of them and also told her I lied about my health.

She accused me of lying at least 20 times. I had proof but the judge would not look at any of my paper work. I had the papers to show that $1600 of the money went straight to the marina where the boat was kept, $900 the repair and get tags taxes for my old pickup, $1950 for my prescriptions for April and May when I had a gap in my Medicaid and 4th heart attack was in April. All of my medical records and doctors statements and another copy of my SS disability appeal. The judge refused to look at any of it and said that should be given to the CS agent. He then promptly sentenced me to 30 days with a $4500 purge to be released.

All of my request for lowering the CS or having it suspended have had a resounding “request denied”. They told me I need to hire a lawyer to have that done.

Last month my X had my bankruptcy thrown out for not paying CS even though I had paid all I had to pay when I still had an income and was paying my $850 CS.

The problem is I have NO money at all for the most basic of things and my X has become satin. She lives in a large house in an exclusive neighborhood that is paid for and has had 4 brand new cars the last 3 yrs.

I have survived only from family, friends and the grace of god.

Joel Stanley

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About The Author

My name is James (Jim) DeLelys. I have been involved in the Child Support System for nearly 16 years. Over those years I have acquainted myself with countless individuals who have had to bear the burden of a terribly broken and corrupt sytem. It is through 'listening' that I have come to the enevitable conclusion that Child Support Laws and Government interference can not be tolerated anymore.


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One Response to “Lies, Corruption, Deceit and Totally Disabled?”

  1. Susan HayesNo Gravatar says:

    The story here sounds a lot like mine. The family courts are not fair in themselves. My ex lied about his income when he was really making over 125,000 a year. He got custody when my son was 5 years old because the court said he was married (I was single) and he had the same job for years(I worked at KFC) So they gave him custody just like that and then the nightmare started for me. He once had my child support at almost 500.00 a month when I was only making 9.00 a hour. He took money out of my unemployment check when I lost my job and was living in hotels with my other son from a previous relationship. He too had several properties,a income of 200,000 plus, several vehicles etc. Well, he closed the case 10 years ago because his Mom who was his book keeper passed away and so he couldn’t hide his income anymore. So he was told to pay me because his income was so great to mine. He said that will never happen and he closed it. I never knew it was not set to zero. A couple of years ago someone hit me and my husband head on. I have pain from it all through my neck,mid-back,shoulders, and on top of that I have degeneration of the disc with arthritis in my lower back. My arms now go numb in the night and my hands are in constant pain. I am filing for disability and should get my hearing soon. He reopened the case and now my nightmare is back. They are threatening me with taking my license away that I need to get to the stores, doctors, etc. I live on a hill and there is no way I could walk up and down it. I have little strength at times. When it is cold I can’t be outside because the pain is so bad in my neck and spine that it paralyzes me to the point that I can hardly walk. They have threaten to put me in jail too. The person I spoke to today said there is nothing I can do about it. The child support office said that even if someone is laying on a hostpital bed fighting for their lives even they can’t do anything about the on going interest. They said I can’t stop the interest or modify the past amount. I live in fear of having my license taken away or that someone will put me in jail. It is not fair that people with disabilities have to go through so much pain. I don’t know what to do or where to go. I feel helpless. I feel like no one cares what I am going through. It shouldn’t be allowed that someone can close a case than reopen it 10 years later. Now it doesn’t matter how much he makes or how many properties he has. I have no income right now and no assests. My husband is trying to pay some of it for me but he has no money either and he is the sole person to take care of his 89 year old MOM who nees a lot of care. I feel like the childsupport division is bullying me to pay or they will throw me in jail. Our family law and child support laws need to be reformed. I can understand paying support for a child but I don’t think it is fair when one person lies about their income,has several properties,several cars,etc. taking money from the other parent when they are barely making it.