This is happening to MILLIONS of families across this country! Are you going to continue to NOT PAY ATTENTION???
WAKE UP AMERICA
How much longer are we going to Brutally Treat our Neighbors, our Friends?
Hello everyone I am glad to see something like this going on. My case is fairly new and is an interstate matter between CO and TN. But let me first input this information, I found myself over seven years ago caught in my own stupidity. I caught a need to “clean up my act,” soon after I had my son and by mistake gave permanent custody to my mother(at the time I thought it was the best thing to do), so that I could handle my affairs. It was a verbal statement that she would give custody back to me as soon as I got everything in order and got back on my feet. Of course I would not be posting today if it worked out as planned. She refused soon after I settled everything to let me see or even speak to my son. So for 6 and a half years I have had less than six months contact with my son. Even when I did have contact it was on the premise that I would not refer to myself as “mom,” but have him call me by my family name.
I had previously inquired about what it would take to reverse this action and had to live with my mothers terms because I was unable to pay the upfront retainer (2,500-5,000), even though to a court that is not an excuse. So I just pushed forward firguring that I needed to take this time to secure myself, not only to be able to afford the battle but also to prove that I am stable. I got back into school in 06 earned a medical tech degree, went back to school in 07 and next year will be finished with my bachelors degree in Business Health Admin.
Now to my reason for posting here; in Aug of 2010 about 5 days before my 29th birthday I was served with child supprt papers in TN. I was excited at first thinking not only will they get money(I HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH PAYING REASONABLE SUPPORT), but I will be able to establish visitation or custody. Well I thought wrong, unfortunetly when it comes to interstate matters only child supprt can be enforced (money only matters).
I had lost my full time job in March, due to absences at work for health reassons (not the flu, but I have a necrotic gallbladder that I can not afford to have taken out because I did/do not have insurance). So by Aug I had only secured a PRN medical job perhaps 10-15 hrs a month. Now just a reminder I was still taking full time credits at school. When my child supprt orders were calculated (at 285 + 100 back pay a month, back pay adding up to 20,000+ total) they were caluculated as if I was working full-time hours at minium wage; even though I had proof other-wise. They said it was to influence me to go part-time with school and put more focus on work (but if I had a million more children or was a leach on the system they would have made considerations). Even though I also had proof that I was turning in applications weekly. To add to this rediculous situation, I am not entitled to the calculation of caretaker and mother (me) income; nor care-taker, father, and mother income. She does not have to prove that she is equally being responsible for my son (which she has been on assistance since she has had custody). Nor does the father in CO income or payments count. He was ordered to pay the minium with no back-support two three years ago. CO says that his case or income does not affect my payments because the support orders were filed seperately. So in reality she could eventually get equal and double amount in child-support.
I am working 5 PRN medical jobs, plus a full time job working three tweleves (recently aquired), still full time student. I have moved in a low rent (400), but hopefully still within standards for CPS I could find. My biggest fear in my inability to keep up with all of this is that I will not be able to get custody of my son and that I will have an issue with child support that will cause me to default on my school loans. Mean while my mother is in her fifty’s does not work and because she was going to get cut off from state aid went back to school (in my opinion creating a bigger debt for society to pay). She has had a child molester living with her to pay her bills (which in CO is not illegal as long as he is not on parole or probation) for over the past three years. Where is my right to the pursuit of life, liberty, and justice?
My focus for the past 6-7 years has been to better myself, in the hopes it would bring me closer to getting my son and now I am being told my value does not exceed being a bank. TN child support office is not interested in my struggle, what I am doing on the custody end, nor the molester (a felnoy offender) living with my son, nor the fact that my mother has not had a job in at least five years, nor the fact that father is not paying what they are asking me to pay, or the fact that (even though they have the misconception that it will) his payments does not affect my case, nor the fact that the requesting state (CO) is not asking for the same amount in back child support that they are. Oh and not let me forget my mother was ordered to pay child support when she sent my younger sister away and she never paid it. My sister was 22-23 when they finely got her taxes garnished.
My child support attorney says there is nothing I can do and my custody attorney says that it will take at least a year of re-unification (re-unification because my mother has kept my son from me for so long that I have to be slowly re-introduce into his life) before I “may” get custody of him. I do not understand how the law can be designed to treat people in numbers and not in individual situtations. Again where is my right to the pursuit of life, liberty, and justice. I have no problem paying, I just think it should be an amount that considers the whole situtation.
If anyone knows what and if there is some-thing I am over looking that doesn’t create another bill for me feel free to email me (email@example.com) and wish me luck. My mother denied mediation for custody so my day before a judge is at the end of April.
Frustrated but Hopeful
From President Obama; Legislatures, 2011/03/05 at 4:42 PM
Please take a moment and SIGN for Child Support Reform. You do not have to be directly involved in the Child Support System to Sign this Petition. Yet, we are all apart of the System; if someones’ U.S. Constitutional Rights are being violated, you are being violated. How much more Government interference are you able to put up with? Presently, the Children are always the losers; relationships are being ruined, thousands go to jail and thousands commit suicide each year! PLEASE USE THE COMMENT FORM TO SIGN LOCATED AT THE BOTTOM OF THIS PAGE; Thank You!
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